There’s no question that we are living in uncertain and tumultuous times. From job loss, poverty, divorce, death, illness and more, people everywhere are experiencing hardships and struggles beyond their understanding. So many are crying out and wondering, “WHY?” These feelings of grief and longing are understandable and unique in each human experience. There is no comparison of one situation to the other, and no one can claim that their pain or challenge is greater than the other.
As an empath, I am somewhat of an energetic and emotional antenna and feel at a very intense level. I experience my own pains and process my own emotions as well as those of others. For a long time, I found these emotions very overwhelming and at times, unbearable. But throughout my healing journey I’ve discovered that there are incredible gifts in the emotions we feel. Rather than succumbing to the overwhelm and helplessness of the emotions I experience, I have come to understand their power and purpose and rely upon them for the guidance and healing I seek each and every day.
Our emotions aren’t just feelings that make us feel “good” or “bad.” They’re indicators that guide us and show us whether or not we’re living our lives in alignment or in an opposing direction. They’re our “emotional guidance system” that help keep us moving in the direction we are destined to follow and on track for the life we are meant to live.
There are so many pearls of wisdom and golden nuggets of information stored in our emotions. When we are brave, ready and willing to give them the space, time and attention they want and so greatly deserve from us, we stand to learn a great deal about ourselves. Here are some of the most commonly felt emotions what we can learn from them:
Anger: A strong emotion that we most often experience when we feel that we have be wronged in some way in a situation, most often by another person(s) or even yourself. Anger is a strong indicator that you are not being treated with the level of love and respect that you truly deserve and that a boundary (physical, mental, emotional and/or spiritual) has been crossed. This emotion is calling you to pay attention to your self-love, self-care, self-acceptance and self-respect. How are you not being cared for and what changes do you need to make to ensure that you are being properly cared for and loved?
Sadness: This emotion is most closely associated with loss of some kind. This can be a response to an actual physical loss (loss of job, loss of loved one, etc.) or can be an indicator of a loss of self in some way. This is a call to appreciate and celebrate what you’ve had with the person or experience you’ve lost and an opportunity to process unresolved grief within you associated with other past losses. If this emotion is signaling to a loss of self, ask yourself questions such as, “What am I longing for that I don’t have in my life and for myself? What am I not pursuing that I truly want to be doing and feel called to, but am holding back from? What part of my true self am I suppressing? What are my regrets?”
Fear: This is most often an indicator that there is a physical or emotional threat that is calling for your attention. Is there a person in your life you are possibly trusting too much who doesn’t quite “have your back?” Are you leaping into an opportunity too soon or committing yourself to something that is not a good fit for you? There are times that fear can come up signaling you that there is unresolved emotional trauma from a mistake, humiliating experience or unpleasant event that is being triggered from a similar experience. In this case, you can ask, “What is it that I remember from a time like this that I’m afraid will happen again?”
Joy: Most people don’t even stop to question the messages hidden within the pleasant and desirable emotions such as happiness, joy, excitement, etc. But even high vibe emotions such as joy hold meaning and significance. Joy is the “feels good/right for me” alert that what you’re doing is aligned with your wants and needs and that you are moving in a positive direction. When you experience joy, notice what it is that is the source of the joy and fill your life and environment with more. This is your spirit screaming, “I LIKE IT…I LOVE IT…I WANT SOME MORE OF IT!”
While our emotions can be very powerful and at times overwhelming, they’re here to help us, not hurt us. They are not simply involuntary reactions to the things that happen to us, rather signs pointing us in the direction of the life we want to happen for us. They can serve as incredible supports throughout our life journey and can serve as our greatest teachers, counselors, and allies. They can simplify your life in so many ways and know how to make overwhelming choices more obvious, transitions easier, and directions clearer.
So, the next time you are experiencing an emotion, stop, listen and notice what it’s trying to tell you. You might be surprised at what you discover and how much you stand to learn from them.
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Debbie is an intuitive empath, motivational speaker and writer as well as a certified solution focus coach and transformation coach. She is also a wife, mother, sister, friend and a recovering "people-pleaser" and "approval addict." Debbie shares her gifts with people all over the world providing them with the Divine guidance and support needed to make empowered choices and live their best lives. Her mission in life to use the gifts of her life experiences to help others find purpose in their pain, to heal their deepest heart hurts and inspire them to make empowered choices that help them live a life they genuinely love while loving themselves in the process. Debbie lives in upstate New York with her incredible husband, Peter and her two beautiful daughters, Rebecca and Sarah. She enjoys sharing her musical talents with others playing flute and singing and replenishing her spirit in nature.
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